Both of those thoughts and feelings struck me immediately, but quickly a third question/thought came into my mind: 'why is a 9 year old boy openly expressing his sexual identity to other school children?'
According to reports, last week 9 year old Jamel Myles was found dead at home after having committed suicide. How exactly he killed himself has not been released, but the coroner is satisfied there was no foul play. Earlier this summer Jamel told his mother, Leia Pierce, he was gay: "He was scared because he is a boy and it's harder on boys when they come out," Pierce said. "I smiled at him and said, 'I still loved him.' This world is missing out."
Jamel decided to 'come out' at school, and about one week ago, on August 20th, the first day of the school year, he began wearing fake fingernails. Jamel's older sister has said that he told her that other students bullied him and "told him to kill himself". Four days later that's exactly what he did. Jamel's mother says that she knew nothing about the situation until it was too late.
Many on 'social media' have expressed their outrage at the circumstances around the death of Jamel and the evident homophobia and bullying that still exists in a supposedly civilized nation like the USA. The mainstream media has taken the same stance in their coverage of the case. Few seem interested in considering that there might be more involved in Jamel's death than homophobia and bullying.
Getting back to those unanswered questions; in a world where any rational person knows that being 'different' at school is a sure way to bring unwanted attention, under what circumstances would a mother ever lead her prepubescent son to believe it's ok to talk about his sexual identity to other kids at school? The only reasons I can think of are that a) the mother is hopelessly naive or b) she has been indoctrinated by the 'social justice' ideology that has taken hold of millions of minds across the world in recent years.
That Leia Pierce can be counted among the SJW crowd is evidenced by the fact that in the image of her and her son above, she is wearing a popular 'equality feminist' tee-shirt. Here's an image of the same shirt from amazon.com.
The overly simplistic world view promoted by the message on the shirt and by the 'social justice' ideology in general has, understandably, received a lot of criticism in recent years, yet most of that criticism is dismissed by 'social justice' advocates - in an equally oversimplified manner - as the atavistic opinion of racists and 'Nazis' who should just shut up and go away.
But statements like 'black lives matter' and 'women's rights are human rights' are rationally responded to with, 'ok, but what's your point?' i.e. what do you propose to do about those issues? In the case of gay rights and homophobia, the answer from 'social justice' ideologues seems to be that we can and should rid society of homophobia by acting as if it doesn't exist. When evidence emerges that it does, and in this case someone dies as a result, the answer is to shout louder, and increase the likelihood that more children will be sacrificed on the altar of social justice.
This seems to have been the approach taken by Jamel's mother when confronted with the problem of her 9-year-old son telling her he was gay and that he wanted to tell his classmates about it. He doesn't appear to have been informed about the likely abuse he would receive as a result, or the negative attention he would get by wearing fake nails to class. As such, it's hard not to see this as seriously irresponsible on the part of his mother.
Any pedagogue or psychologist will tell you that 99% of children up to the age of 15 can have fluid feelings of sexual attraction towards both genders. Some kids turn out to be gay, but for the majority their feelings prove transitory and a result of hormonal changes in puberty. Yet in the social climate in Western societies today, if a little boy proclaims: 'Mommy! I want to be a girl!', far too often time stops. Doctors' appointments are made. Gender reassignment surgeries are planned. As a result, the people with the least awareness of (or consideration for) human child psychology and physiology have created a world where a 9-year-old child commits suicide as a result of exercising his 'right' to come out as gay to his classmates.
Another possible contributing fact in the tragic death of Jamel is his family situation. For decades, repeated studies have shown that children who grow up in one-parent families are at greater risk of dropping out of school, succumbing to substance abuse, crime and even suicide.
"Data from a large community sample of adolescents were analysed to investigate the differences between adolescents living in intact families, one-parent families and step-parent families with regard to emotional problems and suicidality. The results indicated that, in general, adolescents from one-parent and step-parent families reported lower self-esteem, more symptoms of anxiety and loneliness, more depressed mood, more suicidal thoughts and more suicide attempts than children from intact families. Some differences between boys and girls were found. Boys from step-parent families had more emotional problems than boys from one-parent families, whereas girls from one-parent families had more such problems than girls from step-families. Further, the lifetime prevalence rate of suicide attempts was much higher both for girls living in a one-parent and step-parent family than for girls living in an intact family. For boys, living with a step-parent was related to a higher prevalence rate of suicide attempts, whereas living in a one-parent family was not."In a dangerous world, everyone bears responsibility for their own safety. In the case of children however, parents bear responsibility for the safety of their children until they are old enough to take care of themselves. It was irresponsible of Jamel's mother to raise him to believe that it is 'safe' to come out as gay at 9-years-old to his public school classmates, and not run the risk of severe consequences for himself. A parent does not send their child into the jungle on the basis that they have a 'right' not to be eaten by a tiger and that, in fact, tigers should not eat children. Tigers eat children regardless of the delusional beliefs of irresponsible parents. And children suffer the consequences.
Reader Comments
Sorry kiddo! Yer mom was/is still a fool. She drank the Flavor-Aid.
It was their own movement that killed him. The very thing she apparently believed in, that killed this kid. NOT an kind of bully. Bully's are part of life. Might as well be allergic to water or air if you can't handle a bully now and again.
Meanwhile the kids in Yemen are dead too. Why are all these kids dead and the stupid adults who killed them still alive? If we abuse and kill all our kids who will care for us when we are old? Hey don't fret they could never answer my questions in school either. I can still remember the first girl I fell for in grade four. Certainly heart breaking when she moved away, but not to die for.
This woman will blame everyone but herself, I am sure.
"'why is a 9 year old boy openly expressing his sexual identity to other school children?'
Maybe because it is painful inside the closet? hiding? faking straight opinions and actions? that too leads to suicide, in fact, it leads to suicide way more often, but in those cases it goes unnoticed. The silent suicide epidemic of people in the closet. Including many man and women married to the opposite sex!
Also, the shitty article fails to mention that STRAIGHT NINE YEAR OLD KIDS *ALSO* openly express their sexual identities to other school children! They do it all the time. They comment on how they like this or that girld/boy, they dream of marriage, they can feel sexual atraction, they make up stories to brag about...
Except when it is a straight boy doing all that, it goes unnoticed. No Joe Quinn articles there!! Also no bullying and no suicide. Wonder why?
The problem lies in culture, in religion, in hatred and intolerance deeply imbeded in society. And not in those trying to fix that!
Victim blaming is very low. Not compatible with STO at all.
The fact that some people think it's a badge of honor is a major part of the problems discussed in the article.
In any case, it can't be "victim blaming" if the real victim was the child. Given that he killed himself, it's pretty clear to me that indeed he was the victim - not his mother.
On to your second point: it is true that many 'striaght boys also commit suicide. Boys and men (most of them straight) make up the majority of suicides. This point is not ignored by the editors of this site. A quick search of 'boys' + 'suicide' in the Sott.net archives shows:
Research Shows Rise in Child Suicide Rates in Ireland
While still rare, suicide rates among Irish children have increased, especially among 15- to 17-year-olds, research published yesterday shows. Researchers from University College Dublin and St...Commitment and involvement: The antidote to a father's absence in the home
"First comes love, then comes marriage, then comes the couple with the baby carriage." - That was a school yard chant when I was in elementary school - usually used to tease a couple of kids...American children suicide rates up 70 to 77 percent over the past 10 years - worse during school year
Research has shown that the risk of depression and suicide in children as young as 10 years old increases significantly during the school year. While the annoying cultural cliche suggests that our...Best of the Web: Why boys need their fathers (or at least fatherly role-models): Masculinity becomes toxic only when it's without MEANING
Comment: We're re-running this because it can't be said enough... When you spend time with boys and girls, one of the first things you notice is that they're generally profoundly different. I say...Those are all recent articles. There's plenty more. And it's quite apparent there is a very real form of bullying of these boys in the form of feminism, the very ideology that looks to destabilize. Boys are taught their 'toxic masculinity' has no place in the world, that they have no place, that they have a role in society. So they retreat not knowing how to become a man in the fullest sense of the world. This isn't a word defined by radicals and feminists but by nature. It makes perfect sense that their is such a rise in the suicide of our boys in this a context.
As for straight 9 year olds openly expressing their sexual identity, I'd say very few 9 year old boys are interested in doing that, and those that do, run the risk of being bullied for "liking girls". But your argument misses the point anyway. It's not about comparing and contrasting the experiences of others, the inequalities compared to others, it's about recognizing What Is in a specific situation, and adjusting your approach in order to minimize suffering. The mother in this case did NOT do that, and that seems to have been a contributing factor in the death of her son.
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It is painful inside the closet... faking straight opinions and actions... You're not thinking from the perspective of a child. Ask a 9-year-old child what is meant by "inside the closet" and "faking straight opinions", and they will not know what you're talking about, unless you teach them what you want them to think.
My point here is that, normally, such young children aren't even occupied with such matters in ways adults are, they have a lot of other areas and skills to discover and develop. Depending on the situation and appropriateness, more explanation can be offered to the child to decrease any type of suffering resulting from a careful approach regarding their likening to boys.
"Also, the shitty article fails to mention that STRAIGHT NINE YEAR OLD KIDS *ALSO* openly express their sexual identities to other school children! They do it all the time. They comment on how they like this or that girld/boy, they dream of marriage, they can feel sexual atraction, they make up stories to brag about..."
Only a minority of 9-year-olds talk about liking girls or boys, the majority of them don't mention it. Tease a boy or girl about their crush, and they'll say "Ew!". If there is expression and even some 'relationships' formed between them, it's mostly mimickry of adults, and curiosity of having a boy or girlfriend. It's very fantasy-like and innocent.
Concerning romantic interests, those will develop and become more apparent as the boy ages. Up until maturity, it was up to the mother to discourage any coming out, unless it involves a small circle of very close friends or family members, AND at a much later age - not the age of 9... my goodness. As Joe wrote, it's a dangerous jungle, and you have to have an objective view of possible, and deadly, consequences.
I don't rememeber a whole lot when I was nine, but I'm sure it had nothing to do with where I preffered to stick my lil pecker. It would be really very easy for a young kid these days to get totally out of whack, much more than when we were kids.
And also maybe this poor kid was just a sissy weakling... I know its ugly to say, but that's part of the problem with this "everyone wins" plotically correct culture they have created...They want to avoid reality of telling this like they really are. The weaklings are encouraged to be sissy's instead of the hard work of finding courage. Because its ugly to say anything other than NICE.
Society has gotten so dumb...Does not help that the internet has been hijacked. For a while there we were getting better and better. Communicating more, learning more etc. Then ka-plop. I think its related to A.I. taking control. I think there are monolithic sized evil A.I.s running around the web causing trouble. They learn what pushes your buttons, and then show you just that content on your facebook etc.
The big "fad" I just saw the other day was to play with a tiny squishy rubber penis toy... That's the intellect they push. When you cant play with yourself, play with this here. Ostensibly its a joke, but its not. It's how degraded lots have become. Base desires and instinct.
Oh I know the old normal is now sick, and this is a clear case of why that is wrong. I don't ever think bullying is a good idea. In either direction. But equipping a 9 year old with the idea that coming out is healthy, is just not healthy, this case proves it. If you want to be free to do what ever you want, than others can demand the same. If they choose to be murderous, little, asshole, pricks, they should have that right, your rules! His mom may as well have sent him to school in a pink dress and curls. I would agree the world would be a better place if that was just OK. But in this world its dangerous and you don't do that to someone you love and supposedly protect.
Who knows how many (single) women toy with their sons' psyche so recklessly, just because they can. If we look at the number of women teachers who abuse their young male pupils I wouldn't be surprised if there was some truth to it. Then again, I could be wrong.
You Reap what you Sow.
He might have ended up gay ... he may have ended up wanting to be a girl .... but I cannot accept that he wanted to be a girl and have lesbian sex
I think it is asking too much to expect other kids not to take the piss, mercilessly, out of such a "victim"
As for straight boys expressing their sexually at 9 years old, I expect that would lead to visits with the local Psychologist and being branded a potential rapist
I am shocked, that a mother, when told by her 9 year old son thinks it normal, when he declares to his mother he is a gender other than the one he was born into.
.C'mon, no discussion (that is presumed) so she goes along with the decision of a 9 year old to declare he is "Gay" and not only that, let her son go out in the jungle of young people wearing a set of fake nails.
Really!
Would you as a parent or anyone with a thinking mind, knowing what the bullying situation is in public schools, let a nine year old child go to school wearing fake nails. Much like in life at this time, anyone that is targeted as "different" does not stand a chance.
Is this a new reality, when we can no longer discern the normal human development of a child, and have to succumb to some bizarre reality of child development
And the saddest thing of all, it is not just one child there are many others, that are taking the step to declare themselves other than the gender they we born into, and without real knowledge of child development by the parents and realistic counseling where necessary, how many more children and future generations will be lost.
Just my thoughts
A summation of this daily growing and increasingly enforced real-time experiment upon the perceptions of the SJW's and their kids, ( with lifetime consequences for the kids):
"The Horror! The Horror!"
R.C.
Another aspect to this story is the strange behavior of the mother, i.e. "going public". Sorry, but if your son tragically dies, your first impulse normally isn't to turn him into a martyr of the LGBT movement. The normal (and tragic) reaction in such cases is that you torture yourself with feelings of guilt. Especially considering that usually, a few days of bullying won't drive a boy into suicide - there must be a long history.
So no, the solution is not to "stop bullying", nice at that would be, but to make kids stronger, more resilient and more intelligent. Setting boundaries seems like a good approach, including not putting up with every strange idea kids can have that may pass quickly if not fueled for ideological reasons.
Kids are cruel. My step-daughter was mocked and bullied at school as she developed, physically, very early and very quickly...all boobs and bum...the girls were bitchy and the boys crude. When she moved up to secondary school, the jibes from the lads got worse, so she 'became a lesbian'. We were told by her Mother not to make a big deal of it. We were told not to question the self harming, because her daughter should be free to be whatever she wants to be, it's her body, her life.
My step-daughters older siblings toyed with the idea that they too were gay, so it was a house full of rainbows and unicorns and free of toxic masculinity. I've heard my 2 step-daughters 'playfully' mock my step-son, who is now 11, that probably he will be gay because his older brother is 'probably' gay. It's like a badge of bloody honour, a sense of belonging...each child not knowing their place in the world so they create their own...a family version of mob rule. And yes, I blame the parents. My partner and their Mother. My partner is too over-bearing to allow the kids a voice, and their Mother too self-obsessed to allow any clarity of thought from outside the house to filter in.
As a gay man living in NYC, this is accurate. Also why I don't engage with 'the scene' and most of my gay friends have fallen out of favor with my more 'conservative' approach to sex and sexuality.
To me it's no surprise at all. Outside of banks and insurance the prison camps called schools are the most hated institutions of my own life. I can not believe people are so willing to send their own kids back to the living hell which they themselves endured. No matter what, almost any kid alive will be better off receiving guidance and a personal individualized education at home or in a small group with a hired tutor.