Fifty Shades of Grey, the book and the movie, is a celebration of the sadism that dominates nearly every aspect of American culture and lies at the core of pornography and global capitalism. It glorifies our dehumanization of women. It champions a world devoid of compassion, empathy and love. It eroticizes hypermasculine power that carries out the abuse, degradation, humiliation and torture of women whose personalities have been removed, whose only desire is to debase themselves in the service of male lust. The film, like American Sniper, unquestioningly accepts a predatory world where the weak and the vulnerable are objects to exploit while the powerful are narcissistic and violent demigods. It blesses this capitalist hell as natural and good.
"Pornography," Robert Jensen writes, "is what the end of the world looks like."
We are blinded by self-destructive fantasy. An array of amusements and spectacles, including TV "reality" shows, huge sporting events, social media, porn (which earns at least twice what Hollywood movies generate), alluring luxury products, drugs, alcohol and magic Jesus, offers enticing exit doors from reality. We yearn to be rich, powerful and celebrities. And those we must trample to build our pathetic little empires are seen as deserving their fate. That nearly all of us will never attain these ambitions is emblematic of our collective self-delusion and the effectiveness of a culture awash in manipulation and lies.
Porn seeks to eroticize this sadism. In porn women are paid to repeat the mantra "I am a c***. I am a b****. I am a w****. I am a s***. F*** me h*** with your b** c***." They plead to be physically abused. Porn caters to degrading racist stereotypes. Black men are sexually potent beasts stalking white women. Black women have a raw, primitive lust. Latin women are sultry and hotblooded. Asian women are meek, sexually submissive geishas. In porn, human imperfections do not exist. The oversized silicone breasts, the pouting, gel-inflated lips, the bodies sculpted by plastic surgeons, the drug-induced erections that never subside and the shaved pubic regions—which cater to porn's pedophilia—turn performers into pieces of plastic. Smell, sweat, breath, heartbeats and touch are erased along with tenderness. Women in porn are packaged commodities. They are pleasure dolls and sexual puppets. They are stripped of true emotions. Porn is not about sex, if one defines sex as a mutual act between two partners, but about masturbation, a solitary auto-arousal devoid of intimacy and love. The cult of the self—that is the essence of porn—lies at the core of corporate culture. Porn, like global capitalism, is where human beings are sent to die.
There are few people on the left who grasp the immense danger of allowing pornography to replace intimacy, sex and love. Much of the left believes that pornography is about free speech, as if it is unacceptable to financially exploit and physically abuse a woman in a sweatshop in China but acceptable to do so on the set of a porn film, as if torture is wrong in Abu Ghraib, where prisoners were sexually humiliated and abused as if they were on a porn set, but permissible on commercial porn sites.
A new wave of feminists, who have betrayed the iconic work of radicals such as Andrea Dworkin, defends porn as a form of sexual liberation and self-empowerment. These "feminists," grounded in Michel Foucault and Judith Butler, are stunted products of neoliberalism and postmodernism. Feminism, for them, is no longer about the liberation of women who are oppressed; it is defined by a handful of women who are successful, powerful and wealthy—or, as in the case of Fifty Shades of Grey, able to snag a rich and powerful man. A woman wrote the "Fifty Shades" book, as well as the screenplay. A woman directed the film. A woman studio head bought the movie. This collusion by women is part of the internalization of oppression and sexual violence that have their roots in porn. Dworkin understood. She wrote that "the new pornography is a vast graveyard where the Left has gone to die. The Left cannot have its whores and its politics too."
I met Gail Dines, one of the most important radicals in the country, in a small cafe in Boston on Tuesday. She is the author of "Pornland: How Porn Has Hijacked Our Sexuality" and a professor of sociology and women's studies at Wheelock College. Dines, along with a handful of others including Jensen, fearlessly decry a culture that is as depraved as Caligula's Rome.
"The porn industry has hijacked the sexuality of an entire culture and is laying waste to a whole generation of boys," she warned. "And when you lay waste to a generation of boys, you lay waste to a generation of girls."
"When you fight porn you fight global capitalism," she said. "The venture capitalists, the banks, the credit card companies are all in this feeding chain. This is why you never see anti-porn stories. The media is implicated. It is financially in bed with these companies. Porn is part of this. Porn tells us we have nothing left as human beings—boundaries, integrity, desire, creativity and authenticity. Women are reduced to three orifices and two hands. Porn is woven into the corporate destruction of intimacy and connectedness, and this includes connectedness to the earth. If we were a society where we were whole, connected human beings in real communities, then we would not be able to look at porn. We would not be able to watch another human being tortured."
"If you are going to give a tiny percent of the world the vast majority of the goodies, you better make sure you have a good ideological system in place that legitimizes why everyone else is suffering economically," she said. "This is what porn does. Porn tells you that material inequality between women and men is not the result of an economic system. It is biologically based. And women, being w***** and b****** and only good for sex, don't deserve full equality. Porn is the ideological mouthpiece that legitimizes our material system of inequality. Porn is to patriarchy what the media is to capitalism."
To keep the legions of easily bored male viewers aroused, porn makers produce videos that are increasingly violent and debasing. Extreme Associates, which specializes in graphic rape scenes, along with JM Productions, promotes the very real pain endured by women on its sets. JM Productions pioneered "aggressive throat f******" or "face f******" videos such as the "Gag Factor" series, in which women gag and often vomit. It ushered in "swirlies," in which the male performer dunks the woman's head into a toilet after sex and then flushes. The company promises, "Every w**** gets the swirlies treatment. F*** her, then flush her." Repeated and violent anal penetration triggers anal prolapse, a condition in which the inner walls of a woman's rectum collapse and protrude from her anus. This is called "rosebudding." Some women, penetrated repeatedly by numerous men on porn shoots, often after taking handfuls of painkillers, require anal and vaginal reconstructive surgery. Female performers may suffer from sexually transmitted diseases and post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). And with porn mainstreamed—some porn video participants are treated like film celebrities by talk show hosts such as Oprah and Howard Stern—the behavior promoted by porn, including stripping, promiscuity, S&M and exhibitionism, has become chic. Porn also sets the standard for female beauty and female comportment. And this has had terrifying consequences for girls.
"Women are told in our society they have two choices," Dines said. "They are either f***able or invisible. To be f***able means to conform to the porn culture, to look hot, be submissive and do what the man wants. That's the only way you get visibility. You cannot ask adolescent girls, who are dying for visibility, to choose invisibility."
None of this, Dines pointed out, was by accident. Porn grew out of the commodity culture, the need by corporate capitalists to sell products.
"In post-Second-World-War America you have the emergence of a middle class with a disposable income," she said. "The only trouble is that this group was born to parents who had been through a depression and a war. They did not know how to spend. They only knew how to save. What [the capitalists] needed to jump-start the economy was to get people to spend money on stuff they did not need. For women they brought in the television soaps. One of the reasons the ranch house was developed was because [families] only had one television. The television was in the living room and women spent a lot of time in the kitchen. You had to devise a house where she could watch television from the kitchen. She was being taught."
"But who was teaching the men how to spend money?" she went on. "It was Playboy [Magazine]. This was the brilliance of Hugh Hefner. He understood that you don't just commodify sexuality, you sexualize commodities. The promise that Playboy held out was not the girls or the women, it was that if you buy at this level, if you consume at the level Playboy tells you to, then you will get the prize, which is the women. The step that was crucial to getting the prize was the consumption of commodities. He wrapped porn, which sexualized and commoditized women's bodies, in an upper-middle-class blanket. He gave it a veneer of respectability."
The VCR, the DVD and, later, the Internet allowed porn to be pumped into individual homes. The glossy, still images of Playboy, Penthouse and Hustler became tame, even quaint. America, and much of the rest of the world, became pornified. The income of the global porn industry is estimated at $96 billion, with the United States market worth about $13 billion. There are, Dines writes, "420 million Internet porn pages, 4.2 million porn Web sites, and 68 million search engine requests for porn daily." [To see excerpts from Dines' book, click here.]
Along with the rise of pornography there has been an explosion in sex-related violence, including domestic abuse, rape and gang rape. A rape is reported every 6.2 minutes in the United States, but the estimated total, taking into account unreported assaults, is perhaps five times higher, as Rebecca Solnit points out in her book Men Explain Things to Me.
"So many men murder their partners and former partners that we have well over a thousand homicides of that kind a year—meaning that every three years the death toll tops 9/11's casualties, though no one declares a war on this particular kind of terror," Solnit writes.
Porn, meanwhile, is ever more accessible.
"With a mobile phone you can deliver porn to men who live in highly concentrated neighborhoods in Brazil and India," Dines said. "If you have one laptop in the family, the man can't sit in the middle of the room and jerk off to it. With a phone, porn becomes portable. The average kid gets his porn through the mobile phone."
The old porn industry, which found its profits in movies, is dead. The points of production no longer generate profits. The distributors of porn make the money. And one distributor, MindGeek, a global IT company, dominates porn distribution. Free porn is used on the Internet as bait by MindGeek to lure viewers to pay-per-view porn sites. Most users are adolescent boys. It is, Dines said, "like handing out cigarettes outside of a middle school. You get them addicted."
"Around the ages of 12 to 15 you are developing your sexual template," she said. "You get [the boys] when they are beginning to construct their sexual identity. You get them for life. If you begin by jerking off to cruel, hardcore, violent porn then you are not going to want intimacy and connection. Studies are showing that boys are losing interest in sex with real women. They can't sustain erections with real women. In porn there is no making love. It is about making hate. He despises her. He is revolted and disgusted by her. If you bleed out the love you have to fill it with something to make it interesting. They fill it with violence, degradation, cruelty and hate. And that also gets boring. So you have to keep ratcheting it up. Men get off in porn from women being submissive. Who is more submissive than children? The inevitable route of all porn is child porn. And this is why organizations that fight child porn and do not fight adult porn are making a huge mistake."
The abuse inherent in pornography goes unquestioned in large part by both men and women. Look at the movie ticket sales for "Fifty Shades of Grey," which opened the day before Valentine's Day and is expected to take in up to $90 million over the four-day weekend (which includes Presidents Day on Monday).
"Pornography has socialized a generation of men into watching sexual torture," Dines said. "You are not born with that capacity. You have to be trained into it. Just like you train soldiers to kill. If you are going to carry out violence against a group you have to dehumanize them. It is an old method. Jews become k****. Blacks become n******. Women become c****. And no one turns women into c**** better than porn."
Comment: If looked at from a broader view, the glorification and widespread availability of pornography is intentional. It's been made that way in order to create the culture that we currently have. It is done to strip away our humanity and turn us into unthinking, unfeeling robots who have lost all connection to what makes us inherently human. The same people who tout the USA as "the greatest country in the world" also have created the conditions which allowed pornography to flourish, which in turn has created a society where, more than any other time, women are victims of domestic abuse, rape, and sodomy. Even by viewing pornography, one is contributing to that world. Make a stand, refuse to participate and help end the social decline into barbarism.
Reader Comments
I've noticed how easily these things are being polarised too. Between men and women, black and white, right and left, free speech and hate speech. So much so, that people aren't seeing what's really going on behind the scenes and some of them just meekly accept their programming like good 'animals'. It's a bit of a worry.
And like most porn, all pop culture gives the public is '50 Shades of Boring'. It seems the only thing our oligarchs can do 'right' is crime and punishment, and no, not the 'playful' mommy porn of the book 50 Shades, but the psychopathic torture porn of Gitmo and the like from one age to the next. It seems that making 'good' porn simply isn't in their nature, as they don't understand the basic aspects of 'play' as a friendly engagement. They see any engagement as a Game Theory contest to conquer, command and control, which is simply boring, sort of like all that violence in films, on tv or in videogames... not much different than most reality tv. Watching the latest episode of the Kardashians is pretty much the same as watching the daily antics of the 'royal' families... boring like porn. It's all fake, they don't know how to entertain, how to 'play'. Even S&M fanatics want to enjoy their games, and our pop culture is in the same league as our other leaders, be it political, judicial, military, religious, educational or whatnot... it's all boring. None of them seem to know how to tell a story, and they dare not tell one too close to 'home', as most of the public doesn't enjoy their idea of 'play'... be it the latest version of the Crusades or Inquisition, it's all boring after a while, but the 'show' must go on, and so as all the sheeple remain asleep in their seats, they take their dreams 'home' with them leaving our psycho culture nothing to do but flagellate for 'gratification', entertainment and 'self-fullfillment'.
Porn is just another reflection of its creators... boring, like school, church, govt, media et al. The world will be mostly asleep when death knocks on its door. All its human critters asleep above or below ground, being kept busy watching the 'porn' about Kim and Kourtney, the Queen in England or the drone games that at times seem so real... almost as if real people were dying in them.... more real than us... as they seem to feel pain. At least in our 'porn', it seems that some of them hav
Some people's erotica will feel offensive and derogatory and threatening to some certain others and this is because people are 'wired' differently sexually. I, personally, am offended by homo erotica because homosexuality repulses me. That does not necessarily mean it is porn, per se, even though I am disgusted by it.
I would agree with gdpetti that porn, actual porn is boring, or tends to be, but more than that I would call porn, numbing and de-sensitizing to the maximum. There is no question in my mind that porn is produced by psychopaths and their associates/'business' partners, who may or may not be victims, depending on their degree of enhanced (learned or adopted) psychopathy. Victims do often become just like their perpetrators and torturers, this is clear, just as it is extremely discouraging and disheartening to anyone who would hold hope for humanity and better things.
Porn, then, is a cheap product that makes huge profits for psychopaths. Just like so many other cheap, de-sensitizing products being marketed today.
Please do not, however, confuse erotica, even offensive (to you) erotica with porn. That would be symptomatic of ego, not realizing the fact of other ego identities, different from it.
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Ps the reference to Caligula's time made me contemplate if the same "People" organised that disaster using the same group of
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The video in the article deal's mostly with the Chinese dynastic cycle and the stages a civilisation goes through, as it declines, the debasement and objectification of women is a hall mark of a civilisation in decline, not to mention all the other chaos going on, famine, war, corruption, increased environmental disaster's etc. it is indeed a sign of the times. my friend neal and I were talking about this last weekend, the very fact that book's like 50 shades of gray passes for literature, pretty much proves we're screwed.
@medicis:
To understand what pornography is or isn't, you have to understand what 'the self' (the individual) is or isn't.
Basically, pornography attacks the self, that which is aware (of itself and other selves) and creative and sympathetic (naturally occurring processes), and replaces it with a model of self, which is duplicative (basically held hostage by phony elements) and destructive (does what it is ordered to do., ie., is unnatural or becomes zombified and highly militarized, so to speak).
Coercion, manipulation and brute force by a strong central deviant mind or groups of such minds (organized criminals and perverts and their enlistments) is at the heart of all pornography and phony, illegitimate projections/distortions of reality and mind use.
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By Jonas E. Alexis on January 14, 2015, VeteransToday.com. The evolution of the pornography disease was quite purposeful.. reminiscent of what occurred in Germany between the wars I and II.
We?
Speak for yourself. Nothing to do with me.
The kind of people who seek out pornography are not normal lusty human beings. They're unable be like that, so they're forced to fantasise, fetishise, and pursue a kind of 'dead', 'branded', 'safe' version of that which can't be fulfilled, and the people who object to pornography the most vociferously are usually suffering from a coin-flip of the same psycho-sexual malaise.
As for the Freudian 'those who protesteth too much themselves desire'... again, is it inherent to the person or is the person infected by psychopathy from without?
Porn is pushed upon us every day, without realizing it ourselves. Look at how products are sold. How many times on my way to work do I see a truck or lorry pass by that tries to sell its product with a seductive woman displayed on the trailer (which has totally nothing to do with the product itself). Sex sells and we are (being) conditioned that way.
"A woman wrote the "Fifty Shades" book, as well as the screenplay. A woman directed the film. A woman studio head bought the movie."
Nah uh, I don't think so.
Erika Mitchell James - author
Kelly Marcel - screenplay
Sam Taylor-Johnson - director
Doubt all you want, doesn't change facts on the ground.
@sass:
I think you've been -uhh- 'corrected' (by Ruth and IncenDiary).
Money goes in, money goes out.
Money comes in, money comes out.
Which is the better sex?
LOL.
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No, not once. I simply said I don't believe it was written by a woman. Pretty simple. That's not the first time from you Ruth. You should think before you write more often.
Thank you so much author and commentators, you have made my day because sometimes it feels like I'm the only one who feels this way. It's good to be reminded that of course I can't be. Agreed with every word of the article, but this sentence in particular should be cemented and carved in stone:
"The inevitable route of all porn is child porn".
The porn industry in it's essence is a very convenient front for pedophilia indeed, there is no way around this simple fact.
...At the company mentioned in the article a number of years ago, as a tech support agent handling calls, IMs, and emails. Aside from dealing with the real crude of humanity I could say with a fair amount of certainty based on my experience that the porn is highly addictive. I've had people begging me to grant them access for free after being caught using pirated logins and incorrectly answering security questions. It was just as much out of desperation as any drug addict begging for their kick.
I recall hearing rumours that the company was linked to organized crime but that's hardly surprising given that kind of milieu. I just noticed that the company worshiped money, just recalling the christmas party sitting next to a mountain of playstations, tablets and tv's. Thankfully I didn't stay long there, due to a rather nasty bit of dishonesty on their part.
David Sax in “The One-Page Magazine” in Sunday’s The New York Times says that the first devotees of the mommy porn sensation “Fifty Shades of Grey” were none other than Orthodox Jews. So claimed Paul Bogaards, a spokesman for Vintage Books, the trilogy’s publisher.
Sax told The Times of Israel that he noticed that the search history on the book going back to March showed it was largely in New York, New Jersey, and South Florida — areas with large observant Jewish populations. This, together with the fact that the publisher told him many of the book’s first customers were also buying Shocken titles on Talmud, was very telling.
Photographer Gillian Laub made public the frenzy over British author E.L. James’s work among privileged middle-aged New York area Jewish women with her video “Fifth Shades Frenzy” for TIME. The short film opens with one woman telling how she first found out about the book. “It was word of mouth, a passing of a whisper,” she recounts. Then she says that when her friend asked her whether she had read the book and she said, no, her friend told her, “You need to read it, and you need to read it now, and you need to wear a panty liner.”
It is unlikely that such statements would have been shared publicly among religiously observant women, but evidently, similar things must have been said in private. How else would “Fifty Shades of Grey” have first taken off among religious Jews?
Sax quotes a guy named Gavriel, who says he isn’t surprised at all by the Orthodox community’s response to the book. “It is truly interesting,” he said, “how wrong the perception is that religious people — just because they tend to be more outwardly conservative — are less likely to be into all kinds of crazy stuff!” He should know. He’s the owner of k0shersext0ys .net —“the original and only kosher sex toy super store on earth.” [Link]
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[Link] "I’m always interested when women like EL James [aka Erika Mitchell or Erika Leonard] (who is really a Jewish mother like me living in London) writes her break-out novels and they sell 2,000,000 copies in one month."
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We exist in Purgatory, 'Eden' after the Fall, in which the 'Dark Side' rules and they control this classroom, they set up the obstacle course in self-conscious awareness. If you have a problem with that, then perhaps it's time for you to leave, and they don't exactly advertise the exit, rather they like to keep it locked and then pull the fire alarm. Another analogy of that soldier on guard duty applies, can we stay awake and aware as all this bs seems designed to either keep us operating in red ray/base energy utilization or put us to sleep. If they can't control it, see that it can't control itself. If it was easy, it wouldn't be worth taking this class in the first place, and using a sports analogy, very, very, very few are every expected to 'go pro', but they are needed to keep the game going, in service to the higher levels of the game.
Does pornography 'inevitably' lead to paedophilia? Probably no more than the catholic church does, British public school does, aligning yourself with Lord Longford does, etc.
Reich, Freud fraud be damned. In general, people aren't red blooded. They're not sexy. They eat GM soy lecithin and keep their portable phones in their trouser pockets. They fantasise. They have sex without natural attraction. They masturbate. They have no possibility of perfecting higher being bodies.
I will presume you do not believe porn leads to pedophilia due to your "inevitably" written as it is. It very much does. It can be likened to the "gateway" drug effect (which alcohol is far more guilty of than marijuana is, not to count it out however). The Catholic church effect is different, in that inherent pedophiles likely already addicted to porn are attracted to positions where they can safely "practice" their "natural" tendencies....
I don't see a conclusion in your final paragraph, so I am a little confused about your point there, although I can guess that your describing people's foibles is an attempt to discredit the nefarious influences our corrupt, morally bankrupt society has on individuals and their choices to place the "blame" squarely on themselves, with no hope of redemption since they have no willpower? The "if you work hard enough you can become president and rich and happy, etc" fallacy perpetuated so therefore it's their own fault?
Everyone has their own choices and problems, etc, but you cannot know that there is "no possibility of perfecting higher being bodies". There is ALWAYS a possibility, you should not assume or presume. There might be a 99% chance of most people not perfecting higher bodies, if such things exist or not, but you appear to be thinking in black and white only. I understand your pessimism regarding this; however, you cannot know for certain. What IS certain is that porn has been getting worse and worse, and more and more mainstream, following a pattern that TV dramas' etc are also following - ie. getting worse and worse, more and more sexist, presumptive, superman melodrama. The more lies people believe, and refuse to investigate due to fear, peer pressure, ridicule, etc, then the more easily they are controlled, distracted and channeled into activities that are deleterious to themselves, and others.
So yes, I believe your first paragraph is correct, your second incorrect, and your third confusing. Ag, but that's just my opinion anyway, who cares right Almost no-one that I can see ... except here. Thank you for enabling this comment.
It's all been laid out for you already. What do you need me for?
Ruth,
Please delete the last comment from babbiwamura100. It is another of those home business scams trying to sucker your readers into becoming victims. Thanks.
Pornography is not just sexual. Our entire culture is pornographic, from Gordon Gekko and "Greed is Good" to cop shows glorifying violence and dehumanization of police victims. What could be more pornographic than a Presidential Election Campaign? It has its wh**** and its pim**, its enticements and allure and broken promises. Every few years in American politics we are subjected to a barrage of porn in the guise of politics.
Or any number of movies and television shows? Every one of them has the obligatory chase scene, the obligatory fireball explosions, the obligatory meaningless violence and meaningless sex. Sensation, adrenaline, and the high of exploiting others. This is the new American religion.
And our capitalist overlords are exporting this to other countries too. The whole world is becoming a porn movie. Life is becoming a porn movie. War has already become a porn movie. Some so-called "churches" or "mosques" or "temples" preach nothing but pornography. The banking system is just as pornographic as Debbie Does Dallas. Exploitation, humiliation, objectification, and domination - all traits of the psychopath - is what our "culture" glorifies and promotes.
Thank God I never had any children. When I die I don't have to worry about what sort of a cesspit they will live in.
"... Dawn Hawkins, executive director of the National Center on Sexual Exploitation, says that because of the huge publicity involved children fully aware of the film.
Dawn Hawkins says that children's minds are being altered to make them think that "sexual violence, emotionless sexual encounters, and fetishized practices are normal and healthy behaviors."[6]
The movie "will be shown in French cinemas to children as young as 12, after the country’s film board gave it the second lowest possible age rating."[4] In the USA, some children have managed to watch the film. Children are being taught the language of sadistic sex.... Advertisers are .. using the ideas of the pornographers to "talk to our children." ...
Fifty Shades Of Grey – Pedophilia Hiding In Plain Sight.. Extracts from what the reader wrote:
Fifty Shades of Grey... has become so popular among women that some are referring to it as 'Mommy Porn'...
It is pedophilia. It is child porn. Kiddie porn...
It is a story of a girl being sexually molested, over and over again, by a male figure with all the power, all the control.
It is the classic abuse scenario. And mothers are, in some cases, quite literally getting off on it...
My professional experience centers around nearly 20 years with Child Protective Services...
What is reported in the news is only a small sample of... the disgusting acts that are going on every day.
Kids are being raped. Kids are being abused. Every single day. Over and over and over again.
I didn’t seek out 50 Shades of Grey.
It was brought to my attention by a longtime friend who is also a clinical psychologist at a university...
She said the book was about pedophilia... a story of a young woman engaging is a very graphic sexual relationship with a somewhat older man.
The problem for her... was that the narrator in the story, was in fact, an underage girl.
My friend indicated, based on the use of language in the narration, that this girl was likely no more than 12 or 13 years of age.
I made mention that the girl in the story was actually getting ready to graduate college...
I’ll try and summarize my friend’s words at this point as best I can.
"Sexual predators are cons... 50 Shades of Grey is a con... It is a story about abuse from beginning to end..."
The female character has no sexual experience. None.
She is given the age of 21, but that age is itself a cover.
Her true emotional age is much-much younger.
She has never even masturbated. She has never even experienced an orgasm.
That alone is one of the greatest attractions to the pedophile. That is the psychology of that kind of act. You get off on taking purity...
Listen to how she talks. Again, she’s not talking like a young woman, she’s talking like a girl.
She talks about cartwheels, and skipping, over and over again. It is the language and the imagery of a girl.
The abuser, the older man... tells the little girl how to speak. What to wear. What to eat.
He is Daddy and she is daughter...
There is spanking and the use of Baby oil.
Why baby oil? Think about it.
The girl wears pigtails...
I got the book, I sat down, and I read it.
The main character ... was a kid who had just had her first drink of alcohol...
The narration, which is the voice of the girl talking to the reader, was the voice of a little girl.
It’s unmistakable. There is very little emotional maturity and absolutely no sexual maturity...
The male character... makes a show of his money, his power, the things he can buy for her, but while this is going on, we are reading the thoughts of a child...
Remove the false age of the girl, which has no basis in reality, and what we are actually reading is the abuse of a little girl.
The main character... can’t operate a computer (but is supposedly a college graduate)... has her imaginary friend... is spanked and slathered in BABY OIL...
And beyond all of this evidence there is the fact that the male character is himself a product of sexual abuse at the hands of a pedophile...
The author ... puts out the theme of pedophilia openly, therefore hiding it in plain sight...
Take away the aspect of money, and the character of the abuser becomes much less attractive and therefore it would have been much more difficult to pull of the deception. Are women actually that shallow? Yes, we can be." [...]
Fifty Shades of Evil: The Grey Trilogy as the Glorification of Relationship Abuse and Child Grooming. [Link]
Hi Chris,
Thank you so much for writing this, I am so surprised at how quite feminists are being about this. Can't they see where this type of thinking/these actions can hurt people. In first relationships, young girls are unsure of how to communicate their wants and needs. If they watch a movie like this and have a boyfriend who hits them; they're now more likely to tolerate it and even think it's normal. Teenage boys who watch this will believe this is what women really want and will practice it. I can't even say just teenagers because I have seen the maturity of some students in their early twenties, and I fear for them and their future. We already have gang rapes going on at universities with the excuse "Oh it's so sexualized here, I couldn't help myself". There are so many single parent homes where the mother is raising the child. It's necessary for these women to raise boys that don't hit and rape girls, and they need to teach them to value the contributions women make to society (I know they have jobs and are busy, but they're the ones shaping their children, leaving it just for the schools to do clearly isnt working). They need to teach their daughters to value themselves as more than just a piece of ass (this obsession with beauty that seems to lead to a lack of true inner self-worth isn't helping society). Sure you can care about how you look but when you need to take a million selfies and have complete strangers compliment you in order to feel good about yourself it's not healthy. Women need to start seeking equality for themselves and others (trying to be slutty just because some men are isn't helping our cause at all.....that's not true feminism and yes it pisses me off). Single fathers out there should be teaching these ideas too, but I know (in many places) it is single moms raising the family now.
I know the excuse "it's just a movie" will be thrown around a lot, but when you factor in that watching movies is where [some people] spend all their time, and it's also where they get a lot of their ideas. It becomes scary when you look at the ideas they're actually soaking up (Do some people struggle to separate fantasy from reality?). I sincerely hope no one takes this movie as the norm and hurts anyone, but I know someone will. I know I live in a dream world where none of this good advice is followed by (98% of the population) but I still feel the need to get it out there. I'd like true equality in society where no sex, class, race, religion or gender dominates anybody else, but I know it's too big a dream. It's just very sad, and I agree that society appears to be going down the toilet.
Lastly, I apologize if I have angered anyone by writing this it's not my intention I just clearly see the big issues in society and how they can be fixed/prevented/moderated. Study history its a great way to see where we came from and how things have gotten messed things up today.