
Arches of an aqueduct in Italy
Have you ever had a really busy schedule — lots of responsibilities, lots of deadlines, lots of stress — and you felt desperate for a break? But then, for whatever reason — tasks came to a natural end; you got laid off — you found yourself with exactly what you had so keenly desired: an ocean of free time. You had nothing really to do.
At first, it probably felt fantastic. You luxuriated in inactivity.
But after awhile, maybe a couple weeks, or a month, the freshness of unadulterated leisure likely started to turn stale. You felt restless, unmoored, depressed. You began to yearn to reengage with work; responsibilities looked not onerous, but desirable.
This experience is part of a cycle innate to human nature: the dueling set of impulses that ever oscillate between the desire to escape from all burdens and work, and the desire to engage with labor and struggle.
We hate to suffer; we love to suffer.
We simultaneously cry out: "Release me!" and "More challenge!"
The latter is the subtler, but truer instinct. While we often think we are unhappy because we have too many things to do, the problem in fact is that we typically don't have enough.
At least of the right kind.
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