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After becoming increasingly upset by the school’s acceptance of transgender ideology, this female student has decided to expose the truth about life in an ongoing culture war
She's 14 and attends a co-educational state secondary in South-East England — where she says one in ten children in her year identifies as trans or non-binary. After becoming increasingly upset by the school's acceptance of transgender ideology, this female student has decided to expose the truth about life in an ongoing culture war.

The other day, I went to the school office to get a new copy of the timetable. The teacher I spoke to used 'they/them' pronouns about me, asking another member of staff, 'they have lost their timetable, can they have a new one?'

He knows me really well and it's clear that I'm a girl. I felt furious he didn't just say 'she'. But it's not just the odd teacher here or there; I am regularly asked if I am in the process of transitioning.

There is a gender-neutral uniform policy at school and lots of the girls wear trousers. Those of us that do are often asked if we are transgender, especially if we have short hair, as I do.

The fact a girl likes playing video games, or doesn't like feminine clothes or make-up is enough to be seen as potentially trans. When my mum complained about me being called 'they', the teacher apologised but explained he was being cautious in case I was transitioning. He said the teachers are treading on eggshells, scared of being labelled transphobic.

It feels like trans is all anyone talks about. The library has a section devoted to LGBTQQIA+ books and there is a display for Pride in the school entrance, with rainbow flags and words and terms such as 'non-binary', 'polysexual', 'demiboy', 'demigirl' and 'pansexual'. These words come up in lessons, too. I'm now in Year 10, and the other day a girl in my English class asked if the Greek god Zeus was a man or a woman and the teacher replied that Zeus could have 'identified as non-binary'.

More recently another teacher said Lady Macbeth was 'neither a man nor a woman'. I think most parents will have no clue this is what their kids are being taught.

So I'm glad the Education Secretary Gillian Keegan is set to tell schools they must be more open about their handling of trans issues. I would be too scared to say this at school, though. I would lose my friends if I did, as they're completely intolerant of anything they think is transphobic.

That's what made me decide to speak out here — without giving my real name.

When I started at my secondary school four years ago, I didn't even know what 'transgender' meant. It hadn't been talked about in primary school or at home. But within days, we were told by a teacher in our PSHE (personal, social, health and economic education) class that we would be seen as 'transphobic' if we used any of the 'offensive words' from a long list, which included 'gender bender' and 'butch'.

I had no idea what transphobic meant, but I could tell it was definitely something I didn't want to be seen as. At that age, when you are told something at school you just believe it. We trusted that what the teachers told us was true.
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Within days of starting secondary school, the student was told by a teacher in their PSHE (personal, social, health and economic education) class that they would be seen as ‘transphobic’ if they used any of the ‘offensive words’ from a long list, which included ‘gender bender’ and ‘butch’
But I did ask my mum about it later. She is a feminist and is critical of students being dictated to. She said that often it depends how you use words — that people within queer communities have used 'gender bender' as a positive way to describe themselves and that 'butch' is used by lesbians to describe other lesbians who are quite masculine in appearance.

While still in my first year, 11-year-old girls in my class began asking to be called 'he' or 'them'.

Soon afterwards a number of others were doing the same. It felt as if they joined in because it meant they were seen as cool.

You get special treatment if you say you are trans or non-binary and suddenly become the centre of attention when you 'come out'.

As soon as a girl says she is a boy, her name is changed on the school register and students are told to use their chosen boy's name.

Now, out of 200 students in my year, at least 20 say they're trans — almost all are girls claiming to be boys or non-binary. Although there is one boy saying he's a girl, this really is largely about girls saying they are boys. The kids in my year don't say they are lesbian or gay, because those words are thought to be an insult.

There is a straight boy going out with a straight girl who says she is trans, so he now has to say that he's bisexual. It's often said by my schoolmates that trans girls are 'better' girls than 'other girls'. I find this insulting. But the teachers don't take any action even if they do hear conversations like this.
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Recently, I was watching a news item with friends about the changes to the Gender Recognition Act in Scotland and every time a guest on the programme said, 'this is a threat to sex-based rights', my friends were sneering and laughing. It made me feel as though girls have no rights and are not respected in my school.

There is constant talk of transphobia and bigotry and many of the students who say they are trans constantly talk about being 'victims', with anyone who isn't trans being the perpetrator.

Coming out as a lesbian or gay doesn't have the same effect, but barely any students do, in my experience.

My friend Kelley* was 'affirmed' [accepted without question] as a boy in Year 7. She has serious mental health issues and is regularly off school as she self-harms.

Kelley socially transitioned without any teacher challenging her. She has a new name and can now use the boys' changing rooms. All my friends pretty much believe in 'gender identity'. Girls and boys are referred to by teachers and students as 'assigned female at birth' or 'assigned male at birth'. This is shortened to AFAB and AMAB.

There is also confusing language such as the word for being attracted to non-binary people, 'skoliosexual'. I find it ridiculous — but can't say that.

There is a lot of breast-binding going on, too, but we don't know who might be on puberty blockers because no one talks about that. One trans-identified girl wants to get a breast binder, but was complaining that her parents would not want her to.

I joined the Equalities Club because I believe in equal rights for all, then found it was impossible to talk about any group, other than trans people, that was discriminated against. There's a rule against wearing badges in school but some students wear trans flag and pronoun badges and nobody tells them off.

Recently, a group of us were watching Prime Minister's Questions and when MPs talked about maternity care, using the terms 'birthing partner' and 'non-birthing partner', I wondered out loud why they didn't just say 'mother'.

I was told off by a friend who said that not everyone with a cervix is a woman. I didn't want to disagree because I knew what would happen — I would be publicly humiliated.

Until now, I've just gone along with most of it. But there are some things I can't leave alone. For example, I really like J. K. Rowling but she was called a 'TERF' (Trans-Exclusionary Radical Feminist) by a friend, who said she was heartbroken to hear that J.K. was 'anti-trans'.

I asked in what way J.K. was transphobic but this friend couldn't give me an answer, she just said: 'I hope all TERFS drop dead.' I was shocked by her anger.

There have also been violent comments on social media towards 'transphobes' with students from the school threatening to strangle them.

That's why I'm writing this piece anonymously, although I believe I should be able to say these things without fear of attack. I want adults to know what it's really like in schools like mine now.

*Names have been changed.