© Seamus
I consulted with a couple of friends and thought it might help if I put down what we believe an adult is. Perhaps not, but it can't hurt.
1. Adults take responsibility for their actions, say "I'm sorry," try to fix any problems resulting from their errors, accept the consequences of their actions, and learn from them. AAs run around saying, "It's not my fault," always blaming others, however tenuous the connection, while the catastrophe created by their bad decisions brings life down about their heads.
2. Adults plan for the future and make decisions that will lead to a better life in the months and years ahead. Plans, of course, may be interrupted by events beyond your control, but as Benjamin Franklin is credited with saying, "If you fail to plan, you plan to fail." AAs make short-term, "Live for today" decisions, and are always surprised when tomorrow arrives and their lives go sour.
3. Adults support themselves and their families. Again, uncontrollable events like illness can intervene, but adults get an education, get a full-time job (however bad), work hard at it and move up. AAs live off others, including family, friends, borrowing, theft, and, of course, the taxpayers -- and believe they are entitled to live at others' expense.
4. Adults know it's not all about them. They put their families, their community, their organization, their place of worship and/or their country first. They care about things other than themselves. They have empathy and can see others' points of view. For AAs, it's all about "me," all about "now." And they wonder why they are almost always deeply unhappy.
5. Adults have resilience. They develop coping skills by, well, coping with things as they come. They can, as football players say, "Take a hit" and come back. AAs' coping mechanism is to run to mommy and daddy, to anyone they can suck energy and help out of, and, of course, to the government to solve their problems, big and small.
6. Adults know that there is no such thing as a "safe space." The only safety in this world is being ready to defend yourself, your family, and your country. AAs are oblivious.
7. Adults are infrequent complainers. AAs make themselves deeply unhappy and people-to-be-avoided by whining all the time. And about things that, "Aren't my fault" of course.
8. Adults act and dress like adults. AAs dress like kids or thugs, wear odd clothing, sport odd hair styles or colors and tattoos and piercings. And they wonder why others don't treat them as adults.
9. Adults can listen to opposing viewpoints from people with different worldviews or cultures without becoming offended, hurtling insults, or calling names. AAs need a safe space, and name calling is their default response.
10. Adults look for shared interests rather than differences to focus on. AAs always focus on the negative.
11. Adults do not enjoy being victims. They are not always looking for reasons, however obscure, to be offended. AAs believe, "I'm a victim, therefore I am."
12. Adults are good neighbors, always ready to lend a helping hand, and considerate of other folks. AAs want to know first, "What's in it for me?"
13. Adults are good citizens, voting, staying informed on public issues, and knowledgeable about their country's institutions and history. AAs are not interested if it doesn't offer them something today.
14. Adults love their children too much to allow them to be disrespectful of other people and their property. They expect their children to have consequences for their behavior. They try to nurture their children in the interests of them becoming adults, though the culture can thwart them. AAs are indifferent, as they don't know what adulthood is.
15. Adults are considerate and law-abiding drivers. They know it is better to be ten minutes late in this world, than ten years early in the next. And that being early isn't worth risking someone else's life, maybe a child's. AAs drive like they are being timed. Eventually time runs out.
16. Adults know the best policy is to underpromise and overperform. They make promises sparingly, but always try to keep them. AAs toss out promises like candy at a parade, with no thought of keeping them. When they don't it's always, "Somebody else's fault."
And, yes, I know that adults aren't 100% on all these items all the time, perfection being beyond human reach. But they try.
I've always liked the joke, "Growing old is mandatory, growing up is optional." But far too many kids today see it as a lifestyle, not a joke. When the society collapses around them, they will demand, "Why didn't somebody do something?"
This is a particularly good one, please remember to always vote and consult with your local representative! Civic duty should be mandatory really.