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Another admirable human trait that has gone the way of the Dodo. It certainly disappeared from my life early on — if it was ever there to begin with. If I had to pick the number one thing that has gotten in the way of my goals, I'd say it's the lack of discipline. For me, it hasn't been a
total lack, but it's right up there at the top of the list.
So, exactly what is discipline? A simplistic way to define it would be this: practicing discipline means consistently doing something that doesn't bring immediate pleasure, but in the end delivers the goals you actually want. And here comes instant gratification again — that evil little trickster that seems to be Public Enemy Number One these days.
I'm sure you're all familiar with the marshmallow experiment. Conducted in the late 1960s and early 1970s by psychologist Walter Mischel at Stanford University, it tested delayed gratification in preschool-aged children. A kid was left alone in a room with one marshmallow (or sometimes a cookie or pretzel). They could eat it right away, or wait 15-20 minutes for the researcher to return and get
two marshmallows instead. Some kids ate it immediately. Others distracted themselves, covered their eyes, or sang songs to resist.
Follow-up studies over decades showed that the children who waited longer tended to have better life outcomes: higher SAT scores, better educational attainment, lower BMI, and fewer issues with impulsivity or addiction later on. It wasn't perfect science — later replications questioned how strongly it predicted success — but
the core idea holds: the ability to resist immediate temptation for a bigger future reward matters.The important thing to note is that this was done with
children. As adults, we're supposed to know better — wait, be patient, stay disciplined, and reap greater rewards. Ha ha. I'm sure when I was a kid, I would've scarfed the first marshmallow, and now, if they replaced it with cookies, I'd do the exact same thing.
Comment: 8/10. Good advice in the main, but one should not close one's mind to the possibilities at the edges of reality.