Childhood development researcher, Clair Lerner, suggests that when children are showered with toys and games, they start playing less. An abundance of toys can overwhelm and distract kids, making them lose the concentration needed to learn from these toys.
Lerner's discoveries were mirrored by Michael Malone, a professor of Early Childhood Education at the University of Cincinnati.
Malone's studies showed that fewer but better toys lead to increased cooperation and sharing when it comes to valuable life skills. Furthermore, too many toys push children into more solitary play while causing a type of unproductive overload.
So what can we learn from this? There is no point in stressing about buying them everything on their Christmas wishlist. Spending time with your children is far more valuable.
In an Oxford University study of 3000 3 to 5-year-olds, it was discovered that the academic success of children was more tied to their home environment and parent's involvement that to the toys and electronics they were given. The kids who had few toys and no electronic devices, but had parents who spent more time with them, performed better in school and in many areas of emotional and social development, suggesting that parents' attention is much better than any screen or toy money can buy.
And should you need another reason to reduce the flow of toy giving, researchers have found that gratitude and generosity rise when experiences are given instead of material objects.
Cornel University psychology professor, Thomas Gilovich lead multiple studies spanning for decades and found that happiness is derived from experiences, not material possessions.
To wrap it all up: Happiness derived from childhood experiences is far more precious and valuable than the fleeting excitement of toys under the Christmas tree. Giving experiences that involve time spent as a family rather than giving toys brings far greater happiness and joy. So, dear parents, don't worry about the presents and focus on making memories.
Reader Comments
Im talking about a school the likes of which this world hasnt really seen before. A school that teaches life in its truth and its full potential.
Still, I liked getting them cool gifts - probably as much as I liked getting cool gifts as a child. I guess that essentially I was trained to use gifts as a substitute for parenting.
The sad part is I really don't recall ever being taught or learning about real parenting, other than what I was exposed to - and most of that was from folks with no more parenting skills than I had aquired.
My take away, I guess, is that the parents can't do much if they don't know how or what to do. It can apparently come naturally but even that probably is from being exposed to good parenting previously and experiencing the real thing.
How to teach those parents that never had consistent good parenting themselves? Especially if they don't want to hear anything contrary to them not being great parents? (as grandparents soon find out when discussing such things with their kids?)