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Here is a new post from pediatric occupational therapist Angela Hanscom, author of a number of popular posts on this blog, including
Why so many kids can't sit still in school today, as well as
The right — and surprisingly wrong — ways to get kids to sit still in class and
How schools ruined recess. Hanscom is the founder of
TimberNook, a nature-based development program designed to foster creativity and independent play outdoors in New England.
By Angela Hanscom
I still recall the days of preschool for my oldest daughter. I remember wanting to desperately enrich her life in any way possible - to give her an edge before she even got to formal schooling. I put her in a preschool that was academic in nature - the focus on pre-reading, writing, and math skills. At home, I bought her special puzzles, set up organized play dates with children her age, read to her every night, signed her up for music lessons, put her in dance, and drove her to local museums. My friends and I even did "enrichment classes" with our kids to practice sorting, coloring, counting, numbers, letters, and yes....even to practice sitting! We thought this would help prepare them for kindergarten.
Like many other American parents, I had an obsession: academic success for my child. Only, I was going about it completely wrong. Yes, my daughter would later go on to test above average with her academic skills, but she was missing important life skills. Skills that should have been in place and nurtured during the preschool years. My wake-up call was when the preschool teacher came up to me and said, "Your daughter is doing well academically. In fact, I'd say she exceeds expectations in these areas. But she is having trouble with basic social skills like sharing and taking turns." Not only that, but my daughter was also having trouble controlling her emotions, developed anxiety and sensory issues, and had trouble simply playing by herself!
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