Science of the Spirit
Thu, 17 Mar 2016 13:47 UTC
Comment: Additional lectures by Dr. Brene Brown: The power of vulnerability
Like it or not, everything you say to yourself matters. The inner critic isn't harmless. It inhibits you, limits you, and stops you from pursuing the life that you truly want to live. It robs you of your peace of mind and emotional well-being, and if left unchecked for long enough, it can even lead to serious mental health problems like depression or anxiety.
The inner critic can have multiple purposes that on the surface might seem useful; it can make you feel like you are trying to do right in someway by wanting to be better or to achieve more. However, using self-criticism for these reasons, instead of positive self-talk, is the same as choosing punishment over a reward. While punishment can deter certain behaviors in the short-term, rewards are generally better for shaping new and lasting behavior. When you punish someone for what they do wrong that doesn't teach them how to do it right. Imagine a small child learning to walk—if you scream at him and call him a little dummy every time he falls down, you can imagine that would have a negative impact on the child. It would certainly have a very different effect then if you smile and encourage the child each time he took a step toward you. When your inner critic consistently labels you in a negative way it has a demoralizing effect and shapes your larger self-concept about who you are and what you can do.
Comment: Further reading:
Children are predisposed to believe they are inadequate because they actually are. Children can't do things that adults can do. They do spill the milk. They can't tie their shoes. They mess up when they try to do things.
As adults, we know that such inadequacy is normal. Children aren't expected to be able to do things because they are children. We understand that they have to learn. Unfortunately, children don't have that perspective. They often see their inability to do things as evidence of their inadequacy.
Good parents encourage their children when they mess up. They help the child understand that they have to learn to do new things, and that making mistakes is a normal part of learning. All parents criticize their children at times, and no parent is immune to the frustrations of raising children. But what about the parent who is overly critical? What about the parent who displays his frustration or disapproval whenever the child makes any mistake? Such parental behavior simply reinforces the child's feelings of inadequacy. The internal critic is born.
Learning to silence critical self-talk
Wake Up World
Wed, 19 Aug 2015 00:20 UTC
Nope, in our society you can't just mourn a person's loss - you need to work. Not just at your job, but on piles of paperwork, people to notify, and arrangements to be made. Finally, when I thought all of the hard work was over, I had to empty out my father's apartment.
Little did I know that this would be the bitterest labor yet.
Comment: "We shop because we're bored, anxious, depressed or angry, and we make the mistake of buying material goods and thinking they are treats which will fill the hole, soothe the wound, make us feel better. The problem is, they're not treats, they're responsibilities and what we own very quickly begins to own us."
See also: The vicious cycle of addictive buying has consumed the average American's life
It is thrilling.
Our brain loves anticipation, probably even more than the actual rewards themselves. The pleasure that we derive from music is chiefly related to the intermingling of anticipation and surprise - you start listening to a tune, find a repeating pattern in it and then start anticipating the pattern. This anticipation is thrilling and so is the moment when anticipation and reality meet. However, too much predictability can start to get boring, so musicians throw in little elements of surprise - when the brain is anticipating something but gets something else, perhaps even better than what it was anticipating. These little surprises are pleasant for the brain too.
Comment: Get on up and dance! See more in the following articles:
- Mental and cognitive benefits of dancing makes you smarter
- Dancing in time with others raises pain threshold, researchers report
- Dance Moves Can Reveal Your Personality
Scientists in Singapore say the discovery means core body temperature can be controlled by the brain - and could have major implications for people working in extreme environments.
The researchers have discovered that core body temperature can be increased by using certain meditation techniques.
They believe that meditation could, therefore, also be used to help people to function in very cold environments.
Tue, 15 Mar 2016 00:00 UTC
STOP: BEFORE YOU READ ON, STUDY THE PICTURE ABOVE FOR 60 SECONDS.
THEN, SCROLL DOWN AND SEE IF YOU CAN ANSWER THE FOLLOWING QUESTIONS:
- How many people total were involved in this accident?
- How many males and how many females?
- What color were the two cars?
- What objects were lying on the ground?
- What injury did the man on the ground seem to be suffering from?
- What was the license plate number of one of the cars?
Enhancing one's observational abilities has numerous benefits: it helps you live more fully in the present, notice interesting and delightful phenomena you would have otherwise missed, seize opportunities that disappear as quickly as they arrive, and keep you and your loved ones safe.
Today we're going to offer some games, tests, and exercises that will primarily center on that latter advantage: having the kind of situational awareness that can help you prevent and handle potentially dangerous and critical situations. But the benefits of practicing them will certainly carry over into all other aspects of your life as well.
Ready to start heightening your senses and building your powers of observation? Read on.
Fri, 11 Mar 2016 15:42 UTC
Reiki essentially uses human intention to heal another person's ailments. Practitioners usually place their hands on the patient in order to channel energy into them by means of touch. It can be roughly defined as using compassionate mental action and physical touch, energy healing, shamanic healing, nonlocal healing, or quantum touch.
Comment: The healing power of Reiki
"They start laughing as soon as they see there isn't blood and bones everywhere," says Scott. "And they are SCREAMING with mirth; it's absolutely helpless." (If you want to see the video in question, you can find it here - though it does contain some swearing.)
Why do we get such an attack of the giggles - even when someone is in pain? And why is it so contagious? As a neuroscientist at University College London, Scott has spent the last few years trying to answer these questions - and atTED2015 in Vancouver last week, she explained why laughter is one of our most important, and misunderstood, behaviours.
Tue, 15 Mar 2016 20:56 UTC
But a new study suggests it's best to ditch that to-do list when it comes to having fun.
Researchers conducted 13 studies examining how scheduling leisure activities affects the way these events are experienced, and discovered that assigning a specific date and time for leisure can have the opposite intended effect, making it feel much more like a chore.
Tue, 15 Mar 2016 12:39 UTC
10 Differences between Worry and Anxiety
1. We tend to experience worry in our heads and anxiety in our bodies.
Worry tends to be more focused on thoughts in our heads while anxiety is more visceral in that we feel it throughout our bodies.
2. Worry tends to be specific while anxiety is more diffuse.
We worry about getting to the airport on time (specific threat) but we feel anxious about 'traveling' (a vaguer and more general concern).
Comment: In this day and age there is a lot to be worried and anxious about. As Gabriela Segura, M.D. wrote as far back as 2013,"Our normalcy bias prevents us from taking notice that tens of millions of people in Western countries are dropping like flies from illness, depression and self-destruction." But, by maintaining nutritious diets and restoring balance to our lives, we can take huge steps that protect ourselves, and future generations, from this flood of toxicity.
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