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Family

Rejection by father can cause long-lasting damage to personality

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Both parents affect your personality, but rejection by one parent could be more critical for long-term development.

Being rejected by your father can do greater, long-lasting emotional damage than being rejected by your mother, research finds.

While rejection by either parent is traumatising for children, fathers often have higher prestige and/or power.

Therefore, children can take their father's rejection harder.

Professor Ronald Rohner, co-author of the study, said:
"In our half-century of international research, we've not found any other class of experience that has as strong and consistent effect on personality and personality development as does the experience of rejection, especially by parents in childhood.

Children and adults everywhere - regardless of differences in race, culture, and gender - tend to respond in exactly the same way when they perceived themselves to be rejected by their caregivers and other attachment figures."

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After my breakdown, wild birds helped me to heal

A silhouetted Fieldfare
© Joe HarknessA silhouetted Fieldfare
In 2013, I suffered a breakdown, and it nearly broke me. Looking back, I believe there was probably something wrong with my mental health from my mid-teens, but it took until my mid-twenties for it to fully surface. I'd masked it, abusing alcohol and Class A drugs in order to create a full-frontal façade of disgusting arrogance. The reality was that inside, I was screaming out to be able to shrink away and be who I really was - but I had to break in order to rebuild.

I needed more than counselling

After the breakdown, I embarked on a therapeutic journey. The NHS support was less than inspiring. The waiting list for funded counselling was months, and the stress workshops I was offered were flatly delivered. Antidepressant medication was the filler for my cracked mind - lifting my mood and suppressing my negative cyclic thoughts, albeit artificially.

Comment: See also: Mother nature is a valuable resource for human health & wellbeing

Spending time in nature calms and re-grounds us providing a sense of renewal

More than just folk wisdom: Immersing yourself in nature has a healing effect


People

Do you have charisma?

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It takes as little as five minutes to feel someone's charisma bursting through.

People who are charismatic have a magic combination of being courteous and approachable as well as being able to influence others.

That is why we associate charisma with leadership and with making people feel comfortable.

New research finds there are six signs of a charismatic person:
  1. Makes people feel comfortable.
  2. Smiles at people often.
  3. Can get along with anyone.
  4. Has a presence in a room.
  5. Has the ability to influence people.
  6. Knows how to lead a group.

Caesar

Alexander Solzhenitsyn: 'Men Have Forgotten God'

Aleksandr Solzhenitsyn
As a survivor of the Communist Holocaust I am horrified to witness how my beloved America, my adopted country, is gradually being transformed into a secularist and atheistic utopia, where communist ideals are glorified and promoted, while Judeo-Christian values and morality are ridiculed and increasingly eradicated from the public and social consciousness of our nation. Under the decades-long assault and militant radicalism of many so-called "liberal" and "progressive" elites, God has been progressively erased from our public and educational institutions, to be replaced with all manner of delusion, perversion, corruption, violence, decadence, and insanity.

It is no coincidence that as Marxist ideologies and secularist principles engulf the culture and pervert mainstream thinking, individual freedoms and liberties are rapidly disappearing. As a consequence, Americans feel increasingly more powerless and subjugated by some of the most radical and hypocritical, least democratic, and characterless individuals our society has ever produced.

Comment: It is a testament to Solzhenitsyn's deep insights into humanity that he could see the West - as it is is right at this present time - from as far back as 1983.


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Research finds people with brown eyes are more likely to be depressed in the winter

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Seasonally Affected Disorder (SAD) is a form of depression. People with brown eyes are more likely to get depressed with the seasons, mostly in the winter, new research finds.

Women with brown eyes are particularly at risk as women are 40% more likely to experience the condition than men.

Those with blue eyes, though, seem to be have a level of protection against what is known as Seasonally Affected Disorder (SAD).

People with SAD - a form of depression - generally start to feel down from around fall and the symptoms continue through the winter months.

2 + 2 = 4

Meditation in the classroom - can it increase students' levels of physical, mental and emotional awareness?

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© ShutterstockMeditation doesn’t just help kids feel relaxed; neuroscience suggests that it changes the structure and function of the brain.
The fast pace of the business world - where competition is the rule and return on investment decides everything - can be challenging for business students.

They are expected to know the rules of business inside out but they also need to learn to master their emotions, to enable efficient and ethical decision making.

A traditional business education provides few opportunities for students to cultivate emotional resilience, empathy and ethical decision-making. Incorporating meditation into the curriculum could be a contribution to rectifying this.

Preliminary findings from a study conducted with business students at Simon Fraser University show that even 10 minutes of classroom meditation can gradually increase students' levels of physical, mental and emotional awareness.

Can meditation help all students - from elementary to university - to become more peaceful, calm and better decision makers?

Comment: More research about meditation practices being taught in the classroom:


Heart - Black

Social media, rage and hysteria: Why are we living in an age of anger?

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© Ben Boothman at Agency Rush‘Unprocessed anger pollutes the social sphere. Every outburst legitimises the next.’
A neighbour objected to a young couple from Newcastle being naked in their own home. "We are sick of seeing big bums, big boobs and little willy," was the core message of the note, crescendoing to: "We will report you both for indecent exposure." It is such a small thing, banal, without consequence. It connects to no wider narrative and conveys nothing but the bubbling discomfort of human beings living near each other. Yet when Karin Stone (one of the nakeds) posted the note on Facebook, 15,000 people pored over it. An Australian radio show interviewed her. I have got to be honest, I am heavily emotionally invested in the story myself and I do not regret a second of the time I have spent reading about it.

There is a through-line to these spurts of emotion we get from spectatorship: the subject matter is not important. It could be human rights abuse or a party-wall dispute; it does not matter, so long as it delivers a shot of righteous anger. Bile connects each issue. I look at that note, the prurience and prissiness, the mashup of capital and lower-case letters, the unlikeliness that its author has a smaller bum or a bigger willy, and I feel sure they voted for Brexit. The neighbours are delighted by their disgust for these vigorous, lusty newlyweds, I am delighted by my disgust for the neighbours, radio listeners in Australia are delighted. We see rage and we meet it with our own, always wanting more.

There was the mean note left on the car of a disabled woman ("I witnessed you and your young able-bodied daughter ... walk towards the precinct with no sign of disability"); the crazed dyspepsia of the woman whose driveway was blocked briefly by paramedics while they tried to save someone's life. Last week, Highways England felt moved to launch a campaign against road rage, spurred by 3,446 recorded instances in a year of motorists driving straight through roadworks. Violent crime has not gone up - well, it has, but this is thought mainly to reflect better reporting practices - but violent fantasies are ablaze. Political discourse is drenched in rage. The things people want to do to Diane Abbott and Luciana Berger make my eyes pop out of my head.

Comment: The question remains: why are people so angry to begin with? Yes, social hysteria and social media amplify it, but what makes people vulnerable now, in this time? What causes the hysteria? Probably the deepest explanation is meaninglessness. On some level, people know that their lives are utterly meaningless, and that makes them angry. It makes them angry because on some deeper level, they know that their lives can and should be meaningful, and they are utter failures at life. Not willing to see themselves objectively, they project their anger out on the world, wishing it would change to accommodate them, rather than change themselves.

But there's more to it than that. See:


Family

Ten characteristics of irresistible people

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Too many people succumb to the mistaken belief that being likeable comes from natural, unteachable traits that belong only to a lucky few - the good looking, the fiercely social, and the incredibly talented. It's easy to fall prey to this misconception.

Some people, regardless of what they lack - money, looks, or social connections - always radiate with energy and confidence. Even the most skeptical individuals find themselves enamored with these charming individuals.

These people are the life of every party. They're the ones you turn to for help, advice, and companionship.

You just can't get enough of them, and they leave you asking yourself, "What do they have that I don't? What makes them so irresistible?"

The difference? Their sense of self-worth comes from within.

Irresistible people aren't constantly searching for validation, because they're confident enough to find it in themselves. There are certain habits they pursue every day to maintain this healthy perspective.

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Family

Parental conflict leads to emotional problems in children

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Children who experience everyday conflict between their parents have problems processing emotions, new research shows.

These problems can cause anxiety and over-vigilance, leading them to see conflict even when an interaction is neutral.

Shy children are particularly vulnerable, the study also found.

Maltreatment and neglect have been shown to alter how children process emotions.

But this study shows a lower level of adversity can have a negative effect.

Brain

Science says noise hurts and silence heals

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© Katie Scott
The value of silence is felt by everyone at some point in their life. Silence is comforting, nourishing and cosy. It opens us up to inspiration, and nurtures the mind, body and soul. Meanwhile, the madness of the noisy world is drowning out our creativity, our inner connection and hampering our resilience. Science is now showing that silence may be just what we need to regenerate our exhausted brains and bodies.

Studies show that noise has a powerful physical effect on our brains, causing elevated levels of stress hormones. Sound travels to the brain as electrical signals via the ear. Even when we are sleeping these sound waves cause the body to react and activate the amygdala, the part of the brain associated with memory and emotion, leading to the release of stress hormones. So, living in a consistently noisy environment will cause you to experience extremely high levels of these harmful hormones.

Interestingly, the word noise is said to come from the Latin word nausia, (disgust or nausea) or the Latin word noxia, meaning hurt, damage or injury. Noise has been linked to high blood pressure, heart disease, tinnitus and loss of sleep. We've all experienced the detrimental effects of noise pollution. Excessive noise can be a major affront to the physical senses and today, more and more people are identifying as highly sensitive and unable to function in chaotic and noisy environments. But now science has the proof not only that noise hurts, but also that silence heals.

Comment: Silence is much more important to our brains than we think