Reeva Steenkamp who was shot on Valentine's day by the Bladerunner
- In exclusive interview Simone Steenkamp says: Pistorius is a 'disgusting liar'
- 'Smirking' Pistorius 'seems to be enjoying his celebrity status,' she says
- Says family had offered forgiveness but feelings have changed since trial
- Reeva was 'very assertive', Simone believes she 'would have screamed'
- Reeva's father Barry, who has stroke since tragedy watches trial from home
- He said: 'When I feel strong enough I'll go there to ask him one thing - "Why? Why did you kill my lovely Reeva?"
- Simone describes Pistorius as an 'insecure, unpredictable man'
A few feet away in the Pretoria courtroom last week, June, the grieving mother of the beautiful 29-year-old model, sat in dignified silence, her eyes fixed on Pistorius's face.
Her remarkable composure faltered only rarely, when she wiped away tears.
But back at their home in Port Elizabeth, 710 miles away, her family are far from composed. They are deeply, devastatingly angry.
Despite the dignified Christian words of forgiveness they spoke before the trial, they now firmly believe the Paralympian is simply trying to save his own skin, to avoid a life sentence for murder.
In an exclusive interview with The Mail on Sunday, Reeva's sister Simone says they are in no doubt that Pistorius is a liar.
'He is trying to convince the court that they were really close and that he cared for her. It's not true. He is a disgusting liar.'
Her feelings towards him hardened as she sat in the courtroom alongside her mother at the start of the trial, in which she witnessed what she regards as his arrogance.
'It was so scary,' she says. 'My heart stopped as he walked past, ignoring us. I like to think his heart stopped too. He knew we were there but he almost lost his balance and fell over when he saw us.
'Then he sat in the dock, smirking. He killed my sister and yet he still seems to be enjoying his celebrity status.
'During the adjournments he marched around as if he was still a star while my mother and I just wanted to hide away. I don't understand how anyone could commit that act - kill someone - and behave like that.'
To find an outlet for their feelings, the Steenkamps plan to open a shelter in Reeva's memory for women who are victims of domestic abuse. But before that, there are three more weeks of the trial to endure.
Pistorius, 27, spent every day last week in the witness box under gruelling cross-examination.
The double amputee denies deliberately killing Reeva in the early hours of Valentine's Day last year by firing four shots at her through a toilet door at his home, claiming he thought she was an intruder.
Simone, 48, who has given up her career and life in England to live with her parents in South Africa since Reeva's death, says the whole family tried to offer forgiveness to Pistorius before the trial began, but that her feelings had changed over the past three weeks.
'It has been such an eye-opener for me,' she says. 'Until I walked into the courtroom it hadn't really hit me that Reeva was dead, that I'll never again see her coming through the door, bouncing around, being in charge of us all like she used to be.
'Sitting there beside my mother in that formal setting, with the whole proceedings aimed at finding the truth about the night she died, I finally took it in and it almost destroyed me. I couldn't go there for more than a day.
'I wouldn't be able to control my feelings. I would be sobbing, distraught and angry listening to his continuing lies.'
While her mother June has stoically returned to court each day, accompanied by a friend, Simone has had to stay at home in the Port Elizabeth countryside, where she comforts and cares for her father Barry as he recovers from a stroke brought on by his grief.
They live on a modest smallholding down a dirt road in scrubland bush, far from the coastal glamour of Port Elizabeth's resort area.
Barry has said he does not want to be in court every day but he watches it obsessively on television in a tiny room next to the kitchen.
From early morning until late at night, he is glued to South Africa's dedicated channel 199, first watching the live trial and then the analysis of the day's evidence by legal, psychiatric and media experts.
He is determined to make one appearance before the end of the proceedings to look Pistorius in the eyes. 'When I feel strong enough I'll go there to ask him one thing - "Why? Why did you kill my lovely Reeva?"
'I feel sure I will know the truth when I stand in front of him and demand an answer. I want to do that for my daughter.'
Simone Steenkamp said: 'During the adjournments he marched around as if he was still a star while my mother and I just wanted to hide away. I don't understand how anyone could commit that act, kill someone, and behave like that'.
'I believe that she was screaming and that he knew it was her he was shooting. I believe they were arguing and that he is an insecure, unpredictable man who might have been thinking he couldn't live without her if the row ended badly.
'So he picked up his gun and shot her in a fit of rage, and now he is lying his head off in the witness box, saying that Reeva didn't scream to let him know she was behind the toilet door.
'Our Reeva was very vocal, very assertive. Some people might go quiet when something terrible is happening, but not Reeva. She would have screamed. I know she would.
'She was a loving, outgoing girl who always spoke up about her feelings, she didn't hold back.
'She had lived her life until then in safety and security and would not have felt panicked into silence.'
Seeing photographs of the physical damage done to Reeva - who had previously experienced only loving, tranquil relationships - by Pistorius's gunshots, was a moment none of the family will ever forget.
'Reeva was beautiful and much-loved. She had had few boyfriends and they remained close even after the romance was over.
'She didn't know anything about volatile relationships and fighting,' Simone says.
'I can't bear to think of her last moments. It was a terrible shock to see photographs of her head shown to the court.
'And all the time Pistorius is crying and vomiting in front of us. My poor mother somehow has to endure this day after day. She is being so strong while this is breaking her up inside. She feels strongly that she must be there for Reeva.'
Simone says she feels proud of her mother for her calm and dignified presence in the court.
'If I was there I would only upset her by crying and storming out,' she says. 'I could not sit there and listen to him, and sit through all those adjournments because Oscar is tired, Oscar is emotional, Oscar is crying again.
Reeva's sister Simone said: 'He killed my sister and yet he still seems to be enjoying his celebrity status'.
We will never really know why he did it, why he destroyed her life and his own.
'Nothing will ever be the same for his family or ours, we know that. But now we want it to be over. We'll be so glad when it's over.'
Simone, like her parents, was proud that Reeva studied hard at school and university, gaining a law degree. When she was offered a modelling contract and decided to move to Johannesburg for a few years, they did not stand in her way.
'It was exciting for her, a lovely girl with the offer of life in the big city. We had to let her go, and her plan was always to return home to Port Elizabeth one day to join a law firm,' she says.
It was in Johannesburg, on the party scene with modelling and showbusiness friends, that Reeva met Pistorius in November 2012 and became his regular girlfriend.
It was in Johannesburg, on the party scene with modelling and showbusiness friends, that Reeva met Pistorius in November 2012 and became his regular girlfriend.
'She told my mother everything. Why wouldn't she tell her that?' she asks. 'Reeva had only been going out with Pistorius for a short time.
Living in England, I didn't even know she was in a relationship with him - that's how new it all was.'
Simone had been asleep at her home in a village in the Cambridgeshire countryside on Valentine's Day morning when she received a phone call from her closest friend in South Africa.
'It was 6am and I was hearing that my little sister had been shot dead. I just froze, I was dazed. I got up and went outside in my pyjamas, shivering from the cold and the shock,' she says.
'A neighbour called to ask if I was all right and I said I didn't think so. I couldn't stop shivering, then I phoned my mother and began to realise this terrible nightmare was really true.'
Simone worked for Porsche customer services, and had been living happily in England for 13 years.
She said it took her less than an hour to decide she should come home permanently to South Africa.
'Our family is close and loving,' she says. 'My mother had been divorced and was bringing me up alone when she met and married Barry. He has been my dad ever since. I had a happy childhood on a farm with horses in a country town outside Cape Town.
'When I was 18 my mother became pregnant with Reeva. She was my adorable baby sister.
'I loved her from the first moment. My mother ran a riding school and would be outside with the ponies and kids while I looked after Reeva.
'The second she cried I would pick her up from her cot and it became a joke in the family - I just wanted to hold her all the time, whether she was crying or not.'
As a toddler, Reeva was Simone's bridesmaid at her wedding. 'She was perfect, and the photograph of us together is something I cherish now more than ever.'
As Reeva grew up she became close to Simone's own two children, boys called Nicholas and Christiaan, now 26 and 27. They are both devastated by her death.
'She was a bossy little girl, always in charge,' Simone says.
'She used to make the boys play at tea-parties and they always grumbled but you had to do what Reeva wanted. We adored her - she was bubbly and fun and ordered us all around.' When Simone divorced it was her stepfather Barry who pulled her through, she says.
'He was always there for me, and now I want to be there for him and my mother. It feels right, returning home.'
Simone Steenkamp told the Mail on Sunday: 'He is trying to convince the court that they were really close and that he cared for her. It's not true. He is a disgusting liar'.
'I'm so grateful for the support and sharing of grief that comes to us from local people and others all over the world. It's what keeps Reeva's memory alive,' she says.
'Her death is the worst thing that could ever possibly happen and we need to get through this somehow.
'It helps to know other people really care. Their kind words help so much.' The Steenkamps have kept themselves busy with plans for the shelter for abused women.
'We don't want to make a big thing about it,' says Simone. 'We just want to get on with it.
'My sister's death has been our first experience of domestic violence and we have since learned that four women are killed every day like that in South Africa.
June Steenkamp (L) and Simone (R). 'It has been such an eye-opener for me,' Simone says. 'Until I walked into the courtroom it hadn't really hit me that Reeva was dead, that I'll never again see her coming through the door, bouncing around, being in charge of us all like she used to be'
Simone says that, despite her anger towards Pistorius, she has no bitterness towards his relatives.'No one in our family is bitter or vengeful,' she says.
'Our hearts go out to Aimee and Carl, Pistorius's brother and sister, who sit in court every day.'They clearly idolised him and I can see they are falling to bits. They didn't kill my sister. I feel nothing but sympathy for them.'
She says that Aimee had come over to her and her mother one day to quietly say sorry, and that Carl had hugged her mother outside the court, saying: 'I'm so sorry for your loss'.
'He didn't do that for the cameras, and no one was there on that rainy day in the street,' she says. 'His family is destroyed just as ours is.'
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